Effective Habits And Maturity

Effective Habits And Maturity

Excellence is not an act it's a habit

Sow a thought reap an action

Sow an action Reap a habit

Sow a habit Reap a character

Sow a character Reap a destiny

Bad Habits

Procrastination/selfishness/impatience/criticalness are gravity pole that violates basic principles of human effectiveness

Habits

Habits are intersection of knowledge skill and desire.

• Knowledge decides what to do

• Skill decides how to do

• Desire is the motivation and willingness to do

In order to make something a habit in our life we have to have all three

I could possibly be ineffective in communication with others because I constantly tell them but I don't listen to them

Happiness can be defined as fruit of and ability to sacrifice what we want now for what we want later

Maturity Continum

7 Habits are not piecemeal or some formulas

Together they form an approach to development and interdependent effectiveness

These help us move forward on maturity continum from dependent to independent to being interdependent.

If I am either not physically/emotionally/intellectually independent then I am not independent which means I cant be interdependent.

Effectiveness

Effectiveness lies in the PPC balance where P stands for Production of desired results PC stands for ability/asset to produce desired result

Think of story of golden goose and farmer The egg is the production The golden goose is the production capacity

In a father-daughter relationship Father or daughter is an asset Their relationship is a golden goose

Note to Self

Exploiting/threatening/beating/manipulating someone weaker/younger than you may get you immediate result but it will poison the long-term relationship

Too much submission to will also lead to poisoning the long-term relationship

No one can persuade another to change, each one of us guard a gate of change that can only be opened from inside out. It cannot be opened by argument or emotional appeal.

  - Merlin ferguson

That we obtain too easily we esteem too lightly it is dareness only that gives everything it's value.

  - Thomas Pain