# Goals and Self Kindness

## Kindness makes it easy to do harder things

## Lasting Behavioral Change

Improve Self awareness - know more\
Show Self compassion - love yourself more Learn to Self belief - back yourself more

## Kindness for Self Compassion

Kindness is - feeling smart, forgiving and helpful in pursuit of habit change - Doing hard things in a row until you become comfortable - Focus on positive instead of negatives - Start conversations with yourself about harder things with phrases like “I knew it would be hard” - Get to know your personal triggers and test

## Self awareness is made up of 7 things

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- Know yourself and how others perceives you
- Know your values, what are your guiding principles
- Know your passions aka things your enjoy to do and aspirations aka life goals
- Know where we fit in, where are happy and grow the most
- Behaviors that make up personality
- Know your Reactions under certain circumstances like stress, crisis, success
- Understand your behavior and its impact on others
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## Self Belief starts with

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- Stop negative self talk 
- Accept the challenge
- Review the list of all hard things you have achieved in life
- Know you can do the next hard thing
- Reframe challenge and risky situation as necessary, exciting opportunities to disprove that you are not capable
- Know you are strong, resilient and capable 
- Know what you want in coming months and what can prevent you from achieving it and take into account
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## 3Ps to Thinking Traps

It boxes you into unhelpful assumptions *Personal* - Its my fault, *Pervasive* - everything sucks, *Permanent* - it will stay this away

## 3Rs of self belief

Recognize - the achievement Record - the achievement Reflect - on the past achievements, take lessons and inspirations

## Lens of limitless

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- Use Be a fly on the wall lens and focus on positives
- Expect habit change will be difficult
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## Building Resilience Reserves

Know Active Resting helps you build resilience reserves

## Your Next Kind Choice

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- Come Tomorrow, What choice will I be proud of having made when I looking back ?
- What choice I would recommend to loved one 
- What choice would I make if person I respect the most was watching
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